You promised yourself you'd never go back there.Never again with the hot-and-cold partner. The emotional rollercoaster. The self-doubt. And then… you find yourself right back in it. Here’s why:Your subconscious is trying to resolve old wounds by choosing what feels familiar even if it hurts. If love felt unsafe growing up, then chaos, inconsistency, or criticism will feel like "home." But it doesn’t have to stay that way. You can rewire your nervous system to recognise safe,