In Japanese culture, gargling is a widely practiced habit believed to help prevent colds, coughs and respiratory infections, especially during cold and flu season.   This practice is often done upon returning home, as is washing hands and taking off shoes. The custom is deeply rooted in tradition dating back centuries. Researchers have found that gargling with plain water at least three times a day reduced the incidence of upper respiratory infections by over 30% and those th

How to reduce stress, anytime anywhere.

I was listening to a podcast with a lady called Cynthia Lawson and she shared this sentence, that she says, whatever is going on and it really works for her. The phrase she shared is “How good can it get?”. She says this to herself a lot and has wonderful experiences. So I decided to try it.  How good can it get?! I started to use it daily. Saying it as and when it came to me. Remembering it when I felt challenged or intense situations arose that I needed to manage. I just ha

You promised yourself you'd never go back there.Never again with the hot-and-cold partner. The emotional rollercoaster. The self-doubt. And then… you find yourself right back in it. Here’s why:Your subconscious is trying to resolve old wounds by choosing what feels familiar even if it hurts. If love felt unsafe growing up, then chaos, inconsistency, or criticism will feel like "home." But it doesn’t have to stay that way. You can rewire your nervous system to recognise safe,

Do you find it hard to relax, even when everything seems fine? Like your body is stuck in high alert mode, no matter what? You’re not crazy. You’re not too sensitive. You just spent a long time in survival mode. When your nervous system has been wired to expect danger, peace can feel… suspicious. Your body doesn’t recognise it. It doesn’t know how to receive it. But healing is possible. I invite you to try this small step, Bring your focus to your breath. Inhale for 4 coun

You’ve read the books. You’ve done the therapy. But when it comes to making a decision… you freeze. You ask others. You second-guess. You panic. And you wonder: "Why can’t I just trust myself?" Here’s the truth:If you grew up being gaslit, dismissed, or constantly criticised… you learnt not to trust your own perception.You learned it was safer to outsource your truth. But that doesn’t mean your intuition is broken.It just means she’s buried under layers of fear. So to start

You finally decide to open up… and then your throat tightens. Or someone shows you kindness… and you instantly want to pull away. This doesn’t mean you’re cold or distant.It means your body learnt that connection was equal to risk. If you were abandoned, rejected, or judged when you needed love the most, you created a protection strategy, which was to, "Close off. Don’t need. Don’t feel." But those same strategies that kept you safe are now keeping you isolated. Healing isn’

You’ve done the work. You’re more self-aware than ever. And still….you find yourself in relationships that drain you, confuse you, or hurt you or all of the above. Sound familiar? This isn’t because you ’re broken.It ’s b ecause your subconscious is running the show. When you grow up around emotional neglect, criticism, or conditional love, your nervous system wires that as "familiar." And familiar feels safe, even if it’s not. So you keep being pulled toward people who refle

Have you ever wondered why it's so hard for you to rest? Why even on quiet days, your mind is racing, your chest feels tight, and your body stays tense? This is something I see in so many women who’ve lived through trauma. Why you always feel like you have to be "on" When you grow up around unpredictability, criticism, or emotional neglect, your nervous system learns: "I have to be alert all the time." Being "on" becomes your survival strategy. You scan rooms. You read people

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