Narcs are cowards

Narcs are cowards.

They often have grandiose facade, but under that they are insecure, they are scared their facade will be exposed, that they will be held accountable. 

They have a very fragile sense of self, needing constant validation, they avoid genuine emotional confrontation or responsibility for their actions. 

The cowardice behaviour can be seen in many ways. 

• Avoidance of Consequences of their actions. fThey frequently "strike and run," initiating surprise attacks or passive-aggressive manoeuvres to inflict harm while retreating before facing the emotional or social repercussions of their actions. 

• Targeting the Vulnerable: Rather than engaging with equals or those who can push back or ask questions, they bully individuals they perceive as weak, easy targets, or those who depend on them, such as family members. 

• Projection and Blame: When confronted, they will refuse to accept fault, instead projecting their own flaws onto others, gaslighting victims, and rewriting history to maintain their image as the victim or the "good person."

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  They often hide behind a mask of virtue, using smear campaigns and isolation tactics to prevent their true nature from being seen by the public or potential allies of their victims. 

Their cruelty is described as a defence mechanism against their own unresolved trauma and deep-seated inferiority complex. This does not make it okay or accept to be on the receiving end of. Their cruelty causes significant harm. Those that manage to get away can  spend the rest of their lives trying to rebuild their spirit especially if one of more of their parents or childhood caregivers was a Narc. 

They are willing to destroy others' lives to protect their own fragile ego, and lack the courage to stand by their actions or face the reality of who they are. 

If you are looking for a solution to dealing with someone like this, know that  you can’t deal with them, and you certainly can’t make them accountable. They will whine, moan, and play the victim. Nobody will make your blood boil more than the self-pitying narrative of a Narc. 

“I am doing my best.” 

“Why are you always getting at me.”

“I am not good enough for you.”

“I don’t know how to speak to you.”

Etc. etc. etc. 

Cowardice is their only option because standing up for what’s right would mean being real for once and dropping the facade….and a Narc ain’t ever going to do that.