Why You Shut Down When You Most Need Connection

You finally decide to open up… and then your throat tightens.

Or someone shows you kindness… and you instantly want to pull away.

This doesn’t mean you’re cold or distant.It means your body learnt that connection was equal to risk.

If you were abandoned, rejected, or judged when you needed love the most, you created a protection strategy, which was to, "Close off. Don’t need. Don’t feel."

But those same strategies that kept you safe are now keeping you isolated.

Healing isn’t about forcing connection.It’s about gently teaching your body that it’s safe to feel again.

I invite you to ry this:

The next time you want to withdraw, try to pause.

Bring your focus to your breath and breathe deeply and slowly in and out, through your nose or your mouth.

As you breathe deeply and slowly notice your body relaxing.

Once your body starts relaxing, invite you to ask yourself, "Is there a younger part of me that’s scared right now?"

And notice what arises.

That moment of awareness begins to create the space for healing.

You don’t have to protect yourself from love anymore. If you'd like to start reconnecting from the inside out get in touch via www.vibrance4life.com/contact and I can share with you how I support women to do just this.

with Love

Dhriti